In-laws… yes, the mother and father of the bride or groom… Love them or hate them, they are here to stay as long as you stay married to their son or daughter. While many of us struggle to get along with our in-laws, many find it amazing to be in their presence and find them a sort of book of wisdom; another way of learning what their son or daughter is all about. However, let me warn you, that if not handled with care and precision, your in-laws can quickly become your worst nightmare so without further redo, let us take a look at the different types of in-laws you get and how to handle them.
The loving relations
Believe it or not, there are quite a few in-laws that are quite smitten with the one who is to marry their son or daughter. That person will be a pillar in your marriage and give advice only when you ask. This you need to treasure as you are very lucky to have them at your side!
The hateful relations
Swaying the scale to the other side, you might have in-laws who hate you. They might make it known in front of your betrothed or behind his or her back. Whichever way, never lose your cool and as a gentle reminder, YOU are the one he or she chose and that says a lot!
The old-age relations
Although we live in the 21st century, you might find your in-laws think of you as a bit too posh for their son or daughter. Although they may never say this to your face, remind them that you are just a regular ol’ gal or lad, wanting to spend the rest of your life making the one happy who matters most.
The “you-are-not-good-enough” relations
No matter how many bouquets of flowers and chocolates you have showered them with, they might still think you’re not good enough for marrying their precious baby. Take their “advice” with a grain of salt as somewhere in there, you might find something useful to apply in life.
Give me grandchildren!
Many in-laws demand grandchildren on the spot! Although this might be something you are planning in the future, make them understand that you’re waiting for just the right time as you only want what is best for your future kids and betrothed. I’m sure you’ll score some brownie points for that remark!
If you find that your in-laws continuously manipulate their baby to see their ways instead of what you as a couple have decided, it’s time to make them understand that your marriage can’t thrive with manipulating ways. Remember to break this gently as the message might not be taken seriously at first as some in-laws find it rather difficult to let go of their son or daughter…
With these different types of monsters… I mean parents in-law, you now know how to handle the good, the bad and the ugly of the in-law crisis! And if ever you need more advice, let Wedding Essentials know and we will make sure your in-law issues are addressed in the next issue of Wedding Essentials and Essential Groom!
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